Helping Avoidants Create Fulfilling Relationships & Happy Marriages

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Unavoidant: How To Heal Avoidant Attachment and Create Secure Love

The Product of years of intensive research, this guide offers a clear overview of the steps avoidants must take to change ingrained relationship patterns and find fulfillment in dating, marriage, friendship and relationships of all kinds.

Hi, I’m Francesco Barbera.

I’ve spent the past 20 years repairing my avoidant patterns and building a rich, happy marriage and family life.

I created this site to share everything I’ve learned so others can do the same – in less time and with less struggle.

The mission of this site is to provide clear and effective tools to help avoidants create satisfying relationships and rich, fulfilling lives.

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Wow. This is the best thing I have come across on my healing journey. I can't thank you enough for sharing this! This is exactly what I have been searching for. I am printing this and will keep it close to read and practice so that I can continue to do the work and heal.

Your writing may have just saved a meaningful relationship in my life.... "Thank you" doesn't feel like enough. But I'll say it anyway. Thank you for processing your thoughts and sharing this vulnerably with us. It is more relatable than I can begin to say.

This was a magnificent gift for alot of avoidants here, I believe, at least it was for me. Thank you for articulating this.

Your posts always bring me to tears because you articulate my inner world in a way I can't yet. Thanks please keep it up

Amazing. These writings you post are so valuable to people in similar places. It' feels therapeutic to even read. Have you ever thought of doing a book ? I can see it being a great one.